Thursday, October 27, 2011
Saturday, October 1, 2011
Where You Stand Says It All
Where You Stand Says It All
By Irma Givens
Once you have a thorough understanding of where you are in your journey, then & only then can you map your way to your destination. Imagine, if you will, you standing on a two-lane, dark road in the middle of nowhere & your destination is Tomball, Texas. How in the world will you get there if you have no idea where you stand? Food for Thought ~ Irma Givens
I've found myself at a crossroad many times in my life. That moment when you really don't know whether to go left or right. The fear of the unknown is standing there starring you in the face and you freeze in your tracks. It's during those moments that I've had to be still & quiet, reflect on my journey and be responsible for the roads I've taken to this point. It's easy to blame those around us and make excuses but the truth is the choices we make take us in specific directions and when we get to the crossroad, it's the opportunity for a self-check. A time to evaluate where we've been, where we are and the choices that got us here. Shake it off and decide where you want to go from here.
Once you know where you want to be (destination), you can decide which road will get you there. Don't spend time worrying about the unknowns. Life is filled with risks, options, winding roads, dirt roads, freeways and U-turns. Take a deep breath, relax, say a prayer and take a leap of faith.
"Keep in mind, no matter where you are, there is a road that leads to your destiny...it's all in perfect divine order." - Irma Givens
To contact Irma email her at: IrmaSpeaks2me@gmail.com. Visit her website at: http://www.IrmaSpeaks.com.
Friday, September 23, 2011
No Permission to Run All Over My Life
No Permission to Run All Over My Life
By Irma Givens
So many times I have found myself wondering why I felt overwhelmed & filled with anxiety. It wasn't until recently when someone I had been closed to for years was over visiting that I discovered why I had felt that way so many times before.
Do you allow people to exhaust you with their over-powering personality, the drama in their lives, the speed of their conversation, their desire to debate? Or the inability to simply say "NO" or "STOP"? I think we all have done this at some point in our lives.
There are people in our lives that take advantage of the opportunity to run throughout our life. You know the old saying, If I give you an inch, you'll take a mile. Well, that certainly applies here. I was around this individual on a daily basis and didn't realize how draining the interactions were. There were times when I got a headache or simply felt like I needed a break but, because we were so close, I never really put the pieces together until years down the road.
When it finally became clear to me, I began to reflect on our interactions and discovered time and time again, I simply needed to say no, put my foot down, or leave the room. Instead, I listened with empathy, offered advice, talked until I was blue in the face, my head ached and I was ready for a nap.
I attribute my blindness to the fact that I love this individual and I desperately wanted to help. However, the help that really needed to take place was not my place. The individual needed to make a decision to change. Many times others get us wrapped up in their mess & before long we are consumed with their stress and drama.
After saying, "NO", I felt a heavy load lifted. I needed to set boundaries for this person and stick to them. I discovered that it was OK to make the decision that it's not a good day for interaction. Or allow the call to go to voice mail.
A dear friend of mine told me something that I'd like to leave with you today:
"When Helping You, Hurts Me, I Must Say No!"
Irma shares her practical approach to transformation as an author, speaker, “Very Vital Vision” workshop facilitator and life coach who offers programs, products and events to empower women to lead and succeed. Irma helps you achieve your goals and dreams by empowering you to clarify your vision. Here’s to your success! Visit: http://www.IrmaSpeaks.com. Email Irma at: IrmaSpeaks2me@gmail.com. Connect with Irma on Twitter @Irma_Givens, Linkedin and Facebook.
Thursday, September 1, 2011
Thursday, June 2, 2011
Don't Slam Another Door On Your Dream!
Choice, chance & change...you know what it's like where you are, you're unsure what it's like where the opportunity presents itself. Ask yourself are you completely satisfied staying put or will you step out on faith & explore this new opportunity believing that your path is guided by a light greater than yourself? If you're really sick & tired, don't slam another open door on yourself. ♥ Peace & Love ♥
How many times have you stood in the way of your own progress? I can tell you I've been guilty of this far too many times. It can be difficult to admit it and take responsibility for blocking your own blessings. It is easier to point fingers and pass the blame to others in our lives. But it's not until we are able to look ourselves square in the mirror and say it's me, it's my life and it's my decision to make that we can move into to action to explore life's possibilities.
Some of my best decisions were the hardest to make. You know the ones where you sit on the fence thinking of all the reasons why you need things to change and all the reasons to simply leave things as they are. It's the uncertainty and the negative self-talk that stops us dead in our tracks. We know what to expect where we are, it's our comfort zone. However, change is uncomfortable because we lose our sense of control. We don't have all the answers. We can't visualize what it will be like. We begin to allow our self-talk to identify all the things that could possibly go wrong. Then we second guess our selfs and often we slam the door on ourselves.
Don't slam another door on you and your dream. You are worthy...believe it! See yourself there...Visualize it! Decide to take a leap of faith and the net will appear.
Peace & Love,
Irma
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